Processing #metoo - A Podcast Episode and its Resources

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Two weeks ago, we met at Grandma's House Brewery and talked about #metoo. It was a challenging topic, but one that we knew we needed to meet about and try to cover. Needless to say, there was no way to cover everything. But we gave it a shot. 

As a result of that evening, Janel has recorded a podcast to also cover some of the material. This is definitely not everything we did, nor is it a comprehensive episode. But I hope that it opens up the topic and creates room for healthy listening and dialogue.

This podcast is probably PG13, in that there are a few stories about things women have experienced.

I want to thank several people for their contributions. Dr. Christy Sim is a domestic violence expert who helped with the resources and layout of the evening. Dr. Kara Lyons-Pardue is a professor of NT who helped me with liturgical resources. Lyndia Radice is an experienced Social Worker who also helped make sure this discussion was helpful and healthy.

I also want to thank Ryan Miller for reflecting on his own experiences in the church around this topic. And, my husband for talking with our group about HR policies. As always, thank you to Dan for being the best podmaster ever!

Following are a list of resources referenced in the podcast or used in our discussion. If you would like to host your own discussion please reach out and let us know.

If you were triggered in any way and need someone to talk to, please reach out to Janel or Ryan. Or you can reach out to these other agencies or Dr. Sim.

The National Domestic Abuse Hotline: 1−800−799−7233
National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255 or chat


Please know: We know that this does not just happen to women. There are stories in our group from people on all sides having been abused and mistreated. We do not dismiss or diminish those stories. But in this context, we did focus on women. 

From Buzzfeed: 32 Everyday Things Women Do That Men Don’t Have To Worry About
This is a powerful read. It is real. It is something that probably any woman in your life will tell you is true. Please take some time to think about these daily thoughts for women.

A Note to Men:
"Women are not asking men to give up their manhood in order to support women leaders. Rather, they are asking for men to bring their whole selves to work so that they can show up, contribute, listen, and collaborate.
 
Women don't want men to feel bad about being men. That's not the point. It's not just about teaching men not to be sexist and oblivious. Yes, all men have more to learn on this topic. And, yes, women want men to be respectful. But they are not asking men to be passive and silent. "
From http://onthemarc.org/blogs/22/519#.Wi4CIkpKvIU

Reflection Questions on the Podcast:
1. What were you taught early on about how to treat people of the opposite/different gender?
2. Do you still believe those things?
3. Where have you changed your views?
*In our group discussion, it was pointed out that emotions are also taught with these things. The emotion wheel may be helpful here for additional reflection.

On Male/Female Bias - From A Transgendered Perspective
You can learn more about Paula Stone Williams here. Her Tedx Talk from Denver is not live yet. 

Shankar Vedantam - Unconscious Gender Bias


Power and Control Wheel
Many times the abuse that we are seeing right now has less to do with gender and more to do with power and control, which is expressed along gender lines. These actions can happen to anyone from anyone. And they are abusive. 
*If you are in an abusive relationship and need help, please reach out to someone you trust. Call the abuse hotline or seek the help of counselor.

Emotions Wheel
Emotions are tough. Especially when we might not know how to name them all or be able to distinguish how they feel. This can happen for lots of reasons depending on family upbringing, early abuse, or religious upbringing. Be aware of and being able to name our emotions can help us in all areas of life.


Here is the poem we closed the night with: V'ahavta by Aurora Levins Morales

Other Poems that friends offered:

It is not just the interior of these walls,
It is our own inner beings You [are renewing]...
We are Your temple not made with hands. 
We are Your body.
If every wall should crumble, and every church decay, 
We are You habitation…
We bless You for this place…
[but] take us “outside the camp,” Lord,
Outside holiness, 
Out to where soldiers gamble, 
And thieves curse, 
And nations clash
At the cross-roads of the world…

George McLeod adapted by John Philip Newell

Video Submission: "Word Choice"


Podcasting Goodness

If you weren't able to join us at #theologybeercamp (though rumor has it that another one is in the works ;), you can hear some of our great conversations on the Brew Theology Podcast. All the current episodes can be found on the Podcast page or at Podbean (or at your favorite Podcasting site.)

Our recent episodes include our discussion with John Cobb, Jr. and Process Theology. We asked him a few questions and talked about his most recent book, Jesus' Abba. Dr. Cobb was a real trooper at #theologybeercamp. He spent almost 6 hours on the platform talking with curious Podcasters and theologians. It was an honor to meet him and get a chance to talk with him. 

You can also listen to our podcast interview with Barry Taylor. He was fun to talk to and thinks deeply about how faith and life intersect.

Back in Denver we talked with Amanda Henderson of Interfaith Alliance CO. We discussed the need to have our own people and to work on how to interact well with people who might disagree. In a climate where having meaningful dialog between parties that disagree is getting harder and harder, this was a great discussion on how we can do that better.

Coming soon is our recent interview with Kathy Escobar and a discussion about Shifting Faith. If your faith has gone through a significant transition, or if you're in the middle of it right now, please read her book Faith Shift. You can even get introduced to the topic on her blog.

We hope you are enjoying the podcast. Please make sure to give it a listen and give us reviews. If you have interest in starting your own Brew Theology group, please let us know. We'd love to talk to you about how to get started on this wonderful adventure.

Skol!

"Skol" is another word for cheers. A word that wishes good things for your drinking companions. 

I learned this word from a friend's grandmother. She's a beautiful woman who doesn't always know everything that's going on anymore, but she wants to make sure you know you are loved. And so, whether with water or gin, or watered down gin, she wants to "Skol" before taking a drink.

Deep in the heart of her subconscious, she knows that wishing others well and meeting around the table to do so, is a vital part of what it means to be human. She knows that this universal greeting brings people together and binds us to one another.

And when we are bound to one another; when our well being and success as humans rests on living this life together, we all succeed. And in our current situation, if we don't learn how to return to the table, we may lose the ability to Skol with each other.

I am so thankful for the meeting around the table and making friends. For being able to talk about difficult things and still hug each other at the end. To get to taste new things, and hear new things, and have new experiences.

Last night I got to meet around the table with Muslim, who was welcomed to join us even without drinking alcohol. I learned things about a tradition I know very little about. My assumptions were challenged. And I was challenged to widen my understanding.

It wasn't always comfortable or easy, but it was valuable and meaningful. But it took being intentional and making space to sit with someone different from me. To hear what she had to say and to let it sink in. To meet and talk and think together. 

So how does that sounds to you? I have to tell you, it's pretty awesome. 

Please consider joining or starting a Brew Theology community. This is where life happens and we hope you'll join us!

Skol!

 

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